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Please answer: gr8 aunt has cancer...?

My great aunt and I are very close (she is like another grandmother to me) and she has been diagnosed with metastatic breast cancer, and isn't getting better. Also I know she prob. won't make it and I don't know how do deal with it, any advice??

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1. I am a cancer patient too and have a grand-daughter who is scared. Please just take each day with her for what it is, a blessing. Call her. Visit her. Tell her all the things you love about her and what makes her so special to you. Remind her of all the things you have done together, no matter how small. Doing so will take her away from her pain for a few moments and transport her back to that time. It is THE greatest gift you can give her, your time. When things get too rough for her, hold her hand, touch her face....the warmth and love one person can give another who is ill is priceless. She will draw strength from your touch. When it is time, tell her it is okay....and that YOU will be okay. That alone is our biggest fear, that our passing will cause others the emotional pain that we are feeling in our physical bodies. Let her know that won't happen. Rejoice in the fact that you two ARE so close. That is more than some get in an entire lifetime. You were lucky enough to have TWO "grandmas". You have been blessed. The pain of losing someone is the price we have to pay for being able to love someone so much. It hurts, but I wouldn't trade that feeling for ten lifetimes. God bless you. You will be in my thoughts and prayers and so will aunt.
2. Oh i am so sorry to hear that. spend as much time with her as you can. ask her about her life. tell her that you love her and take lots of pictures. i know that when she passes you will always cherish those talks and times you had with her. wish you the best.
3. Spend time with your aunt. You will never regret any of that time spent.
   
   Know that it is okay to feel a whole range of feelings about this. Everyone deals with grief differently. It is definitely good to cry.
   
   Talk with your friends that listen, many people find it helpful to journal.
   
   Lots of people enjoy and have found helpful the book below.
   
   Good luck.
   
   Give yourself time to deal with it. It really is sad when someone we love suffers or dies.
4. be with her tell her you love her and do as much as possible
5. Love her as much as you can! She can use all of it that she can get, and you could use some too. No regrets! Right now, it really can't be about you, it needs to be about her. You'll have your time to heal, she probably won't, so don't steal your energy "dealing with it." Love your Aunt, Hate the Cancer.
   
   I'm really sorry! Remember every day is a gift (but some gifts you'd rather return to the store).
   
   Find Humor - Laugh and Love.
6. ahhh dang! these people before me know what they're talking about! ok well...i talk to you all the time so ... just listen to what i tell you when you talk about it i guess. i dont know what to say!!!!! ok obviously this is not the best answer but whateves. ok i lylas and i know your going through a lot and i am here for you. thats all i have to say! (pick the one right under me she knows what she is talking about! i dont care if you choose me cuz i dont care about the points i have like 1,000 already seriously just pikc the one under me!!!)
7. I lost an someone to cancer a few months ago. The best thing is to spend alot of time with her, and make every moment a special one.
   
   Make sure you take heaps of photos and video of both of you together, as it may be the last footage you will have of her alive.
   
   Go through all the great moments you had together.
   
   Record her voice, as you may miss it. Id do anything to hear my loved ones voice again.
   
   Its tough knowing that someone you love will die.
8. Hey dancer! You just...deal with it. It isn't easy, there is no pat advice that I can give you to help you deal with it except to stay in the "now" with her and let her know how much you love her.
   
   Please, check out this website and if she's willing, then it could be a life saver. If not, then it's her time to go and you must love her and trust her to go when it's time for her to leave us here. She may stay because you will be hurting, but I would suggest letting her go with love, don't hold on to her and make her last days painful, which I'm sure that you don't want for her. The fact that you asked tells me that you love her very much. The website I was talking about has testimonials about women with stage 3 breast cancer that have been healed. Read the testimonials, perhaps these will give you some hope. My girlfriend, 67, had breast cancer and it's completely gone after 6 months on this diet.
   
   I certainly hope this helps, my dear. Bless you.
9. ill Pray your Great Aunt to get well soon... i hope after this a few hours later or tomorrow.. your worried is no more..