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For women who have had breast cancer or husbands/boyfriends who are with someone that has it.?

I have recently been diagnosed with breast cancer and will undergo a mastectomy. Today I went to the Dr. and was shown pictures of women who have had the proceedure done and I really felt horrible seeing the end result of what the breast looks like after reconstructive surgery. My question is this: How does it feel to meet someone new and be comfortable with my body when I have this breast that's totally reconstructed and none of it is actually mine? I will have scars on my breast and no nipple for a while. Will a man see me as being attractive after the fact? This is serious so only serious replies.

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I can't tell you how it feels. I know it's hard to lose a part of your body that many see as it makes you a woman. My mother just had a bi-lateral (both) mastectomy with a TRAM (reconstruction) in August. My suggestion to you is find a Breast Cancer Support group in your area. My mom has learned so much and had so much support and resources from her group. They are a great way to find out which doctors are really good and which ones to avoid. Find a plastic surgeon who's work you find the best. Don't just settle for the first one you see if you don't like their results or think you could find someone better.

Best of luck, be strong you will do well.
I saw a photo once of a woman with one breast. On the side where her breast had been removed she had gotten a beautiful tattoo of a flower, it was totally cool. On a personal note, if you and I had a relationship and you needed the proceedure it would not make any difference to me. If a met you after the proceedure and we started having a relationship it would still make no difference to me. You are more than your breasts.