Breast Cancer Advice Center

Friends dad has cancer?

My friends dad just found out he has male breast cancer, and he had the lump removed but he still has it, but she has no idea how to cope with it. I don't remember how exactly I coped when my mom was diagnosed with malignant melanoma. She needs some ideas for coping. Help? By the way guys, when I say friend- I really mean friend. Not me. I couldn't care less about my own father. My own mom went through it, and she is still here. But really, it is a friends father.

Public Comments

1. First, I'm sorry your friend and her dad and their whole family must go through this ... it's going to be a very difficult time for ALL of them, regardless of the outcome.
   Tell your friend to call the American Cancer Society and see if she can join a group of 'family/friends' who have someone who has cancer. This support group should be very 'good' for your friend, and give her everything she needs (including shoulders to cry on) to 'cope' with this 'long-term crisis.'
   For you ... you DO NOT NEED to 'remember' what your 'coping' was when your mom had malignant melanoma. What you do need to do is just 'be there' for your friend, as a person who can 'take her out' of this crisis for awhile ... a few minutes, a few hours, or even a few days. Just BE THERE for her, and be 'sensitive' to what she's going through. As for you, you will need to 'take care' because as you are there for this friend, you may also have to 'relive' parts of your mother's illness ... so TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF and if necessary, 'walk away' if things 'get rough' ... because you WILL want to 'break down' on occasion, and you CAN NOT do that in front of your friend unless she's already 'crying' ... then all you can do is 'hug each other' and cry it out together. I'll put ALL of you on my prayer list ... and I hope that you and your friend can pray, too. It does HELP.
2. Call a local hospital and see if they have any support groups for people that their relatives have cancer.
3. Okay
   
   I just recently lost my grandfather from the same thing.
   
   Time is the most valuable thing. Just wait it out. Thats all you can do.
   
   Don't be all depressed it will get you nowhere.
   
   I would advise you to spend as most of your time with him as you can, so later on in life you won't regret the things you didn't get to do. If he is to pass on such as my grandfather did, accept it that he is in a better place. Until then wait it out.
   
   
   remember its in god's hands.
   
   they are in my prayers!
   
   
   Pray a lot! it will help
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5. Your Dad needs "Getting Well" by Carl Simmington.
   I know 2 people who had incurable cancer and they got over it with these 2 tapes.It cost about $16.
   One of those people was my Dad.
   Good luck
6. This is one of the hardest things to do. I got through it with a lot of support. She needs some one that will let her cry, scream and talk. Be patient as a friend she will probably go through a lot of changes. True friends are going to be the key. Let her decide how long it will take for each phase. Good luck and lots of love.
7. Have her speak with her dad's doctor. He or she can guide her threw this. The doctor also could recommend some people that will support her and help her with her questions as well. A support group or a good friend that will support her and help her threw this is the best thing. Be there for your friend, show her that you really do care.
   
   Both of my parents passed away from cancer. Their doctors were so very supportive of me all threw it.
8. Just be there for her.. Let her cry, and dry her tears.